Introducing your child to a New Baby

Last year, I wrote about how The Barn Owl and I prepare our kids to welcome a new baby into the family. Since then, I’ve had messages from other parents wondering how we prepare our kids to meet their new sibling for the first time.

J and Little E love their little brother Thumper to bits, and they both help me out a lot at home by looking after him and playing with him, which I am very grateful for. When they met him for the first time, they were both so excited and so happy to see him! They absolutely couldn’t get enough of him.

I was so glad that the groundwork we had laid in the months previously really paid off!

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J and Little E meeting Thumper for the first time

I think it is really important for the new baby to make a good impression on his or her older sibling as well. The Barn Owl and I always try our best to make sure that not only our older kid is mentally and emotionally prepared, but that the baby is also ready to meet them too!

So here’s:

Debs G’s Guide to Introducing your Child to a New Sibling

  1. Prepare your child for a special solo adventure. You’ve probably already made arrangements for who will be looking after your older kids when you head off to the labour ward. The kids have to know that they will be spending at least one night away from both Mummy and Daddy, so it’s worthwhile letting them have a taste of this experience at least once beforehand so that they have something to look forward to. This is a no-holds barred opportunity for grandparents or relatives to coddle and spoil the children and otherwise turn their stayover into a junk food fueled paradise of fun. I also took advantage of this opportunity to squeeze in a date night with The Barn Owl (fancy restaurant and a movie) and to have a lavishly indulgent lie-in the next day.
  2. It’s all about Daddy now. In the month or so leading up to the end of your pregnancy, it will be time to let Daddy take the reins with the kids, especially with regards to the baths as well as the evening and bedtime routine. After all, you will need to be able to devote time to the new baby without your kids feeling abandoned – and Daddy will have to practice putting the kids to sleep on his own since he may have to spend a day or two doing that anyway.
  3. Resist the urge to have the children brought to you immediately after labour. If you are anything like me, you are the sort of person who does not want their children in the labour room with you. My reason for excluding the children from the birth is because I knew from previous experience, that I am an emotional and otherwise unpleasant person during labour, and I do not want to traumatise them. After labour, when both I, my husband and the baby are exhausted and messy-looking, I think that seeing the kids immediately would not be a pleasant or reassuring experience for them (even though it would be a reassuring experience for me). I feel that it is better for them to hear my cheerful voice over the phone, then for them to look at my exhausted face and see me with all the tubes and urinary catheter in situ. Even if I reassure them verbally, they will still worry for my well-being after observing me in that condition – and I don’t want them to ever resent the new baby.
  4. Do not hog your husband – the kids need him. After labour is over, and both baby and I are nicely cleaned up and waiting to be transferred to the ward, this is when The Barn Owl leaves and goes home. He does not stay over in the hospital with me and he does not spend every waking moment in the hospital with me in the days to come. Yes, it’s lonely being in hospital on my own, but really, I do not need him with me anymore – I can get on with the breastfeeding and everything on my own or with the help of the nurses – so it would be selfish to keep him in hospital with me when the other children need him much more. Let him go home, reassure the kids, show them pictures of the new baby and sleep comfortably in his own bed.
  5. Timing is everything. First impressions count, so I always make sure that both I and the new baby are looking spiffy when the older sibling(s) arrive. The best time to do this is in the mid-morning after the doctors ward rounds and baby checks, and just after the baby has had a full feed and has had a nappy change. This will mean that the baby is in a good mood, maybe even alert for a few minutes. I always make sure that my hubby gives me a heads up before coming to the hospital with the kids, so that I have time to prepare the baby! I also make sure that the baby is lying happily in the bassinet on the far side of the room when their big brother/sister arrives, and not in my arms or being breastfed. If I’m still breastfeeding or changing the baby when they get to the hospital, I tell my husband to distract the kids until we are both ready. I want the older kids to walk in the room and see me waiting for them with open arms! This allows me to literally show them that the baby has not displaced them in my affections!
  6. Greet and cuddle the new big brother/sister first before doing anything else. The first thing that I do is cuddle the older child, making sure that he or she is happy and contented. They need that reassurance that you are still there for them.
  7. Stay by their side until they are ready to see the baby. Once we’ve finished greeting each other, I wait for my kids to ask permission to see the baby! Usually once the kids have ascertained that I am well, they will start to clamour to see the baby. I don’t get up to bring the baby to them either. I sit right next to them and ask their daddy to push the bassinet to the bed, or I hold their hand and walk with them to the bassinet.
  8. Give them space. Your child is going to be more excited about seeing you again than seeing the new baby – mostly because the baby is still just a small blob that lies there and doesn’t do anything. Do not be surprised if after a few moments frowning at the baby in the bassinet, your child wanders off to go look out the window and otherwise appears to be disinterested in the baby. Use this time to thoroughly spoil your older child with attention, and don’t keep trying to draw them back to the baby or pester them with questions about the baby (“Do you like the baby? Huh? Do you? DO you?”). Be cool. It just takes them a longer time to process this whole event, which is really quite overwhelming! They’ll eventually warm up to their new sibling and want to hold it, and take pictures (which will be your cue to make an almighty fuss of them), but if they don’t feel like doing any of that right now, don’t sweat it or it’ll become forced and unpleasant. There will be plenty of opportunities for you to see that sibling bond forming!
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Cloth Nappies: Bumwear NV Diaper

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Thumper is all comfortable in his Bumwear cloth nappy

Thumper has been using hand-me-down cloth nappies from J and Little E and he has been doing very well in them. When Rita, the mumpreneur behind Bumwear, offered to send me samples of the new All-in-two Cloth Diapers with their new NV inserts, I was very happy to have that opportunity. Thanks, Rita!

Bumwear is a local, homegrown cloth nappy brand and I have been a fan of their products since J was born. I already own more than two dozen Bumwear prefolds and half a dozen of their microfibre inserts, which have lasted me well over 7 years, so I was very excited to try out the new All-in-Two diapers – and they are terrific!

All-in-two Cloth Diapers (also known as “AI2” or “Hybrid” Cloth Diapers) are basically a waterproof diaper covers (or diaper wrap) used in combination with an absorbent insert. The insert goes directly against the baby’s skin, and is held in place using snaps. When the diaper is wet, only the insert needs to be changed, instead of the entire diaper.

This makes the cloth diapering system more ‘portable’ as a bunch of inserts and the very trim diaper covers take up a lot less room! I can take 6 inserts and 2 AI2 covers with me to last me a whole day and they take up hardly any space at all in my diaper bag. The new AI2 diaper covers are also compatible with the Bumwear prefolds and microfibre inserts (as doublers underneath the prefold or NV insert), which can be placed securely into elasticated pockets located at the front and the back of the cover.

The AI2 diaper covers come in a range of cute colours, and each diaper has several different snap settings which can be adjusted as the baby grows. I particularly like the leg gussets which are effectively leakproof and guard well against explosive breastfed baby poos! The waterproof inner lining is also of very good quality PUL and allows me to wipe the cover clean after each use, so I did not have to put it in the laundry unless it was soiled with poo.

The covers are recommended for use on babies above 5kg in size, which meant that Thumper couldn’t really use them until he was 6 weeks old. My personal preference is for nappies that can be used from birth to potty training, but I found these covers very useful once Thumper was big enough.

The new Bumwear NV inserts are really very nice indeed! They are made from three layers of highly absorbent microfibre, topped with a soft and smooth “stay dry” suede-cloth. The suede-cloth liner is great against the skin because it keeps dry even when the microfibre is soaking wet, so baby stays dry and comfortable. They also withstand repeated washes quite well and line dry incredibly fast.

The NV inserts are designed to snap in and out of the AI2 cover and they are also compatible with the Bumwear one-size pocket nappies, which have snaps so that the pocket nappies can also be used as a diaper wrap. This is a useful feature of Bumwear pocket nappies, as some parents would prefer not to have their baby’s skin come into contact with the waterproof PUL lining of the AI2 diaper cover.

The NV inserts have been very useful as inserts or boosters for my other pocket nappies, and I have also used them successfully with other AI2 diapering systems that have snaps. I can also see how the inserts would be useful in conjunction with disposable nappies to extend the usage life of a nappy during a long journey where he has to sit in a carseat for many hours or as an extra layer of absorbency if Thumper happens to be a heavy wetter at night.

You can get the Bumwear One-Size Diapers and NV inserts online from the Bumwear website or from the Bumwear flagship store at Marina Square Shopping Mall (6 Raffles Blvd, #03-156, Singapore 039594, Tel: +65 6251 0631).

By the way, Rita (the mumpreneur behind Bumwear) also tells me that Bumwear’s biggest sale and exhibition will be taking place at the Singapore Expo Baby Fair this coming weekend! She’ll be there with great deals on Bumwear diapers as well as thermal swimwear for babies.

Date: 9-11 Oct
Time: 11am — 9 pm (up to 8 pm on Sunday)
Singapore Expo Hall 5, Booth E11

Preparing for Baby: Cloth nappies and diapers

Yes, we are all for cloth nappies here at Owls Well!

The cloth nappies that I bought for J all those years ago are still going strong after being used by Little E, and now they are once again being taken out of storage for Baby #3.

Saving money and the environment = double plus win!

To be perfectly honest, my reasons for choosing cloth nappies over disposables had very little to do with being eco-friendly (although that is certainly a significant perk). I decided to go for cloth diapers because:

  1. Using cloth nappies does not seem complicated. Cloth nappies are now designed to be as simple to use as disposables – there’s no origami or pointy objects involved.
  2. Washing cloth diapers does not seem difficult. I own a washing machine, therefore, washing cloth nappies is not a problem. Just dump the whole lot in at the end of the day on a HOT wash cycle with Country Save Detergent, and everything comes up fluffy and lovely. I’d be washing lots of baby things covered in all manner of yuck anyway – baby milk vomit, for example, is extremely disgusting and smells terrible.
  3. Cloth diapers are cute. All the cloth nappies now come in all sorts of pretty colours and fun prints. And I like my babies to wear cute things and look cute all the time. They are my living dolls!!!!
  4. Sensitive skin runs in the family. Since both A Becky Lee and I have been known to be allergic to the materials used to make disposable nappies, we decided to limit contact with disposable nappies as far as possible.
  5. Cloth nappies reduce the likelihood of developing nappy rash (or diaper rash). Part of the reason for this is that cloth nappies need to be changed as soon as they become soiled. This means that I will not be tempted to allow the babies to sit in their own waste for extended periods of time, which is usually what causes the rash in the first place.

This is not to say that I did not use any disposable nappies at all. We did use disposables on occasion, such as:

  1. The first few days after birth when the newborns are still passing sticky, tarry, nasty black-and-green meconium stool and I had plenty of leftover diapers from the hospital to use anyway.
  2. If a wet nappy became the sole limiting factor for a good nights’ sleep.
  3. When we travelled to a location which has no access to laundry facilities.

In general, the cloth nappies and diapers that I currently own have been in constant use for over 6 years, going through hundreds of washes, and most of them are still in pretty good shape!

Here’s what I have in my current cloth nappy stash:

  1. 24 infant size ‘prefold’ nappies from Bumwear
  2. 4 waterproof diaper covers from Thirsties (to be paired with the ‘prefold’ nappies)
  3. 18 one-size pocket nappies from Happy Heinys which came with a variety of inserts listed below:
    • 12 large microfibre inserts
    • 12 small microfibre inserts
    • 6 hemp inserts
  4. 10 microfibre pocket nappy inserts from bumGenius and Bumwear which I can use with the Happy Heinys nappies (although the original pocket diapers have long since disintegrated. The models that I purchased were the first versions available, which fell apart after a few months of use. I have been told that the latest versions available from bumGenius and Bumwear are now much better quality!)
Little E and J in cloth nappies and diapers

Little E and J are happy and comfortable in their cloth nappies and diapers!

In the picture above, you can see both J and Little E wearing Happy Heiny pocket nappies in a cow print, and blue Thirsties diaper covers (paired with Bumwear flat ‘prefolds’ inside).

I used the prefolds with diaper covers more when they were very tiny newborns taking 2-3 hourly feeds, as it gave me the freedom to change their nappies with a higher frequency during the daytime without worrying about running out of them (since they wash and dry really fast). Prefolds also make great burp cloths and are generally great for cleaning up baby messes, so I always had a stack of them on hand when I was feeding or changing!

As they began to stretch their feeds to 3-4 hourly intervals and started to take longer naps during the day, I used the pocket nappies much more in the daytime as they were more absorbent than the prefolds and could manage a heavier wetting.

From then on, I put them pocket nappies all the time, until they became fully potty trained at around 3 years old! Imagine how much money I must have saved on nappies!!!

The Process of Naming: A (very exhaustive) guide to Baby Naming

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Still nameless for the moment

The Barn Owl and I take naming very seriously in our family, as we really believe that the process of naming is very important. This is something that has been on my mind lately, as we are still looking for names for Baby #3.  As one of my favourite authors, Ursula Le Guin once wrote, “For magic consists in this, the true naming of a thing.”

In most cultures around the world, naming is so significant that there are elaborate rituals and ceremonies surrounding the giving and receiving of names. Some countries even have strict official laws and have government-run departments and committees that have the final say in giving approval to names. In our modern society, companies are playing top dollar to the ad industry in order to establish names for their products and businesses, even conducting extensive market research to find the best names to represent the uniqueness of their brands. So…what could be more important than the name of a child who will be unique in every way?

Since the Barn Owl and I come from different cultures, we try to pick names that will best represent the unification of our families. It is not an easy task. This is why both J and Little E have English first names and Chinese middle names and we have slightly different criteria for choosing each one.

So here’s our:

Barn Owl and Debs G’s Exhausting Exhaustive Guide to Baby Naming

 1. Names should have positive meanings and associations

Apart from considering the root etymology of names (we try to avoid names with sad or depressive meanings eg. Mara which means ‘Bitterness’), we always try to think of people that we know who will share the same name as our child. These have to be people whom we deeply respect or value and whose characters we would be happy for our child to emulate.

This can include historical figures. I mean, nobody in their right mind nowadays would ever name their child ‘Adolf’, which used to be pretty popular name because of its kingly associations. Unsurprisingly, it’s a name that has never been in favour since the events of WWII.

We also consider fictional and pop-culture characters, especially from contemporary popular fiction, because we know our kids will be growing up surrounded by people who are familiar with these names. For example, we ruled out the name ‘Lucius’ although it is a lovely derivative of the latin word ‘Lux’ for ‘light’, solely because J.K. Rowling chose to bestow it upon one of her Deatheaters.

2. No part of the name itself can be used as a cruel nickname

The last thing we want to do is intentionally name our kid something which we already know for certain that they will come to feel ashamed of. This includes name short forms and derivatives, not forgetting initials! This means not naming our kid something that will spell out ‘P.I.G’ or ‘E.G.G’ and considering how the name sounds when read (or mispronounced). For example, this Singaporean politician’s name has been the butt of many silly pun jokes just because of the way it sounds in English, and the name ‘Naomi’ mispronounced could end up referring to a braised noodle dish.

Of course, school children can be very inventive when coming up with nasty nicknames for people that they do not like, however, we do what we can to try to mitigate this situation. It’s not foolproof though – I recently met up with an old friend whose name has been mispronounced for most of her life, and she was bemoaning the fact that she purposefully shortened her daughter’s name from ‘Mikayla’ to ‘Kayla’ in order to avoid mispronunciation (“Mickey Lah”), only to find that people ended up calling her child ‘Kai-lan‘, the cantonese name for chinese broccoli.

This applies to the chinese name as well. Chinese wordplay is a source of great amusement as there are many homophones in the language that have vastly different meanings. For example, the Aged P often speaks fondly of his friend at school named Cheng Wah, which very poetically means ‘a splendid situation’. Unfortunately, the poor guy’s name also sounded like ‘qing wa‘, which is why he spent his schooling years affectionately known to all his mates as ‘Froggy’.

3. The names are easily pronounced by both sides of our family 

This is a little bit more challenging when choosing the Chinese name than choosing the English name, but the main reason for this is because the Barn Owl should be able to say the full names of his own children without difficulty!

Our method of getting around this is to find a way to describe the Chinese name by comparing it with a similar sounding English name (bonus points if that name has a great meaning too). For example, J’s middle name sounds like the name ‘Ryan’, if it is pronounced with a Scottish accent!

4. The name has a pleasant sounding cadence or musicality when paired together with the last name

That is, it rolls off the tongue smoothly. For this, we tend to consider the English and Chinese name separately, because that’s how they will be most commonly used.

Chinese names are generally quite musical in nature anyway, just because each chinese character in the language follows the traditional four tone classes and this is taken into account when pairing characters to form names. Many parents will use meaningful four-character idioms (known as ‘cheng yu‘) or existing famous poems to choose names. Some families even have generation names which, when strung together will form a beautiful poem.

For English names, we focus more on the rhythm and flow of the spoken name.

First of all, we try to mix up the combination of syllables in each part of the name to make it sound less like reciting bland Shakespearean verse. This adds a little variety in the rhythm of the names and which syllables are stressed when they are spoken aloud. For example, our last name has two syllables, so we tend towards names that have an odd number of syllables.

Secondly, we think that the name should not sound too similar to the surname either by rhyming with it or repeating any part surname. Rhyming and repeating names don’t necessarily sound bad, but they can certainly invite ridicule, such as in the case of poor ole Maj. Major Major Major from ‘Catch 22‘. I mean, if one’s surname is ‘Lin’, why saddle your child with the first name ‘Finn’ or ‘Gwynn’? It would be like naming a cartoon character.

5. Names must be tested by the Focus Group 

In our case, the Focus Group is usually the Aged Ps and the Outlaws, and we also take our siblings opinions into account (A Becky Lee will insist on it). Sometimes a trusted friend or uncle/auntie will be consulted too. What we normally do is talk to them about a few name options that we are considering, just to see if there are any very violent negative reactions to the names.

6. Follow your gut feeling 

In our case, after going through lists of names, we have always found that there will be one particular name that stands out amongst all others and will continue to stick in our minds. The Barn Owl and I eventually come to the same unanimous decision about a child’s name and have the same gut feeling that it is the right choice. This will sometimes mean throwing out all the other rules!

Preparing your child for a New Baby

So, with #3 on the way, I have already started preparing 3 year old Little E for her new role as big sister. She is really excited about the arrival of the new baby!

I have to say that in the grand scheme of things, J and Little E have a very loving sibling relationship and J has been a wonderful big brother to Little E, ever since the first day they met. J was 3 years old at the time, and I still remember the look on his face as he held Little E for the first time, and how gently he stroked her sleeping face.

3 year old J meeting 1 day old Little E

3 year old J meeting 1 day old Little E for the first time!

Part of this is due to J’s gentle and compassionate nature, and the other part (I like to think) is the due to the way that we prepared him to receive a little sister into his life. I am really hoping that Little E will have the same reaction to Baby#3, which is why I am employing the same strategies that I used with J!

So here’s:

Debs G’s Guide to Preparing a Child For a New Sibling


1. Instill a sense of ownership into your child from the get-go: Tell your child that you are growing a baby just for them. This way, the baby itself becomes a special gift to your child. The minute I told J and Little E that I was growing a baby for them to be their special little brother or sister, you could see on their faces a sense of wonder and pride. From then on, whenever they talked about the new baby, they referred to it as ‘My Baby’, not ‘Mummy’s baby’.

2. Get them to interact with the baby as much as is possible: This helps them to begin to feel attached to the baby and understand that the baby is a whole new person. It’s quite difficult for children to grasp the concept that there is a live baby growing in mum’s womb so one thing I like to do is get them to feel the baby’s movements once they start becoming more pronounced and tell them that the baby is responding to their voice and touch. “Do you feel that? Baby is trying to give you a high five!” When Little E was born, it only took the sound of J’s voice to help her calm down when she was fussing! Imagine how J felt when he realised how much she was responding to him.

3. Involve them in prenatal care and preparations: This helps them develop more concrete picture of a living baby in their minds and also gives them an idea about how much care goes into a baby even before it is born. Get the kids involved as you wash and sort all the baby gear or prepare the nursery with toys and furniture, maybe even allowing them to help choose new things for the little one. Encourage your child to select handmedowns from their own collection of toys to give to their new sibling.

Debs G Recommends: Bring the kids with you when you visit the obstetrician for the detailed prenatal scan around 20 weeks (when you find out the baby’s gender). This way they get to listen to the baby’s heartbeat and see the baby moving around on the monitor, and the baby is large enough by then to have easily identifiable body parts. When I brought Little E to my scan, she was watching so intently as the sonographer showed us the baby’s head, arms and legs that she was the FIRST person to identify the Baby #3’s gender! That was a proud moment for her!

4. Manage their expectations by introducing them to newborns and babies: This will give them some idea about what to expect. Both J and Little E had the impression that their new sibling would automatically be big enough to play with them straight away and they would be so disappointed if I let them continue thinking that way! So I brought them with me to visit friends and relatives with tiny babies. (It’s best if you bring them with you to the hospital when visiting newborns) I like to emphasise a babies’ utter helplessness, dependance on parents and siblings, and inability to communicate apart from crying.

Debs G Recommends: If you don’t have any access to any real live tiny babies, you can always show them some videos about babies. There are plenty of those around on Youtube. I personally like to show the kids an indie film that I discovered around the time I was expecting Little E. The film is called ‘(Everybody Loves) Babies’ and follows the development of four babies from around the world. This beautiful, funny film covers everything that you could possibly expect from a new baby – premature birth, breastfeeding, babywearing, weaning, changing and changing table accidents…even negative actions of older siblings (which makes for a good opportunity to tell your child what NOT to do!). Even the watching the trailer with your kids is good enough!

5. Show them photos and videos of themselves as babies and talk about the role of an older sibling as the baby’s special guardian: This also helps them to relate to the baby as they realise that they themselves were helpless babies once, and it also develops their ‘older sibling’ mentality as they figure out that there are many things they can do now which a newborn cannot do. This is also a good opportunity to talk about the different ways that they can help you when the baby is born – for example, they can become more independent in dressing/feeding/tidying so that you can spend more time helping the baby or they can even assist you in the baby’s care.

6. Acknowledge your child’s feelings: It’s natural for children to feel some anxiety and apprehension which they may not be able to articulate. They may even feel negatively about the baby, especially when they see how pregnancy makes you more tired and less mobile than usual. If your child is old enough to talk about their negative feelings towards the baby, it is important not to contradict them or force them into expressing a positive attitude. Acknowledge their feelings by agreeing with them (maybe even sharing with them that you feel a little scared and anxious too), then give them lots of cuddles and reassurance. Praise them to high heavens when they display excitement or positive attitudes towards the new baby and comment on what a wonderful big brother or sister they will make and how fortunate the baby will be to have them as an older sibling! It’s important for them to understand that the new baby is not going to replace them. I tend to emphasise the utter helplessness of the baby, and that the baby needs to be carried everywhere, so that they are prepared to see me holding and cuddling the baby often.

1st year of a Preemie

This is a video recording the first year of Ward Miles, born at around 25 weeks gestation, about 3 and a half months early.

The most moving part of this video, for me at least, was right in the beginning, when his mother gets to cuddle him for the first time. You can see the emotional turmoil on her face as she holds her baby to her. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. 

A premature baby at 24 or 25 weeks gestation is born at the limit of viability, with a very low chance of survival – a mere 50% – and a large number who do survive may have long lasting disabilities. Bearing all this in mind, very few babies born this early will live to see their first birthday, so it’s no wonder that Benjamin Miller, his dad, made this video to celebrate. It’s heartbreakingly beautiful to see this tiny little guy fighting to overcome all the obstacles surrounding his birth, and it’s amazing that we now have the technology available to support this (although the family must have suffered a hefty financial burden if the bills were not covered by medical insurance).

My Godson was born earlier this year and he arrived a few weeks early too (although not as early as little Ward Miles!). He had to be kept in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit soon after he was born, so it was nearly four days before his mummy was able to cuddle him in her arms for the first time. When my friend told me this, there were tears behind her smile as she recalled the moment, and when I thought about it at home, it made me cry too. I remember how much I wanted to be near my first child after he was born – whenever the nurses had to take him to the nursery, I felt so sad and anxious. I cannot imagine how terrible it must feel to not be able to pick up and hold your baby.

My maternal grandfather, who was a physician in China many decades ago, told me about a woman in his village whose husband was killed and the shock of this tragedy caused her to go into early labour.

The baby was so tiny that it fit into the palm of her hand, with skin so translucent that you could see his little heart pulsing. At that time, there were no machines to supply oxygen or parenteral nutrition, so she fed her baby with a solution of sugar water and expressed milk, drop by drop with her little finger. She was afraid that the rats would attack the baby, so she wrapped him up and kept him in a drawer at night. Amazingly, the child survived and grew to adulthood, eventually becoming a university professor.

My grandfather used to say that children like these who are able to survive such odds and emerge unscathed, would be strong, spirited and highly intelligent!

P.S. If you have a preemie baby and you need support and assistance, or if you would like more information on how to help families of premature infants, check out Club Rainbow (Singapore).