Wednesday is always one of our busiest days in the week!
P.S. We are following the Advent calendar from Truth In The Tinsel this year!
Wednesday is always one of our busiest days in the week!
P.S. We are following the Advent calendar from Truth In The Tinsel this year!
Last evening, Little E and I were very privileged to have been invited to the opening performance of the ballet, Giselle, performed by the oldest ballet company in the world, the Teatro di San Carlo from Naples, Italy.
It was a truly magical performance.
The dancers were such a joy to watch, with their expressive faces and gestures keeping all of us – Little E included – completely mesmerised. I was especially entranced the ghostly Wilis who were absolutely ethereal, drifting across the stage in their veils, each as light as a feather.
I wondered at first if the ballet would touch on themes that were too difficult for Little E to understand, but through the storytelling of the dancers, she was actually more than able to follow the complex storyline of love and betrayal.
In order to prepare 6 year old Little E for the performance, I borrowed Ballet Stories by Margaret Hargreaves from our public library and read her the tragic tale of Giselle.
Giselle, a beautiful but sickly peasant girl falls in love with Albrecht, a nobleman who disguises himself as a farmer in order to gain her affections. He promises to marry her, and she shares her excitement with a visiting noblewoman who is also celebrating her engagement. Unfortunately, it turns out that Albrecht is engaged to the noblewoman, and Giselle goes insane with grief, dancing until her heart gives out and she dies. Giselle becomes one of the Wilis, shades of women who died from unrequited love, but instead of exacting her revenge on Albrecht by dooming him to dance to his death, she pleads with the Wilis Queen and saves his life.
Little E and I had some very good conversations about the story of Giselle (especially in the light of this recent event), but it’s a very good cautionary tale about how important it is to choose potential suitors wisely and to listen to the counsel of friends and relatives who care for you.
Owls Well recommends: This ballet is 2 hours long with a short interval, so make sure you bring your little one to the bathroom before the start of the performance, and bring some sugar-free sweets to help them focus quietly!
P.S. Giselle is playing in Singapore until the 29 April 2017, so go watch it before it’s too late! Get tickets to Giselle here.
P.P.S. Find Ballet Stories by Margaret Hargreaves here.
Hi Owls Well Readers,
I have got a real special treat for you guys today!
One lucky Owls Well reader will make away with a pair of highly-coveted tickets to the opening night performance of GISELLE by Teatro Di San Carlo worth SGD$290.
This is all thanks to the fine folks over at Base Entertainment Asia! Thank you guys for sponsoring this awesome giveaway!
If you’d like to join me in watching the wonderful prima ballerina Ekaterina Oleynik dancing with the Teatro Di San Carlo ballet company on 26 April 2017, 8pm, here’s how you can take part in this giveaway:
(This giveaway is open to anyone with a Singapore mailing address and closes at noon on Monday 25th April 2017. Winners will be picked via Random.org – just make sure you complete all 3 easy steps!)
UPDATE: This giveaway is now closed – Peishan is our winner! Thanks for playing!
I am so glad that we won the tickets because the show really exceeded expectations!
First of all, I was wondering how the Imperial Ice Stars would be performing as the venue, MasterCard Theatres, is not a large arena-style theatre which would be suitable for a traditional round ice-skating rink. Little did I know that the Imperial Ice Stars usually brings their own portable cooling equipment along with four tonnes of crushed ice to turn any theatre stage into a temporary ice rink!
Secondly, I did not expect the show to contain anything other than graceful figure skating to the music of Tchaikovsky…but it was so much more than that!
There was fire!
I mean, fire ON the ice!
I mean, ballet, with pointe shoes and everything, pirouetting ON the ice!
And there was aerial gymnastics! With ribbons!
And wirework! FLYING!!! With the blades of their skates flashing in the light as they cut through the air!
Don’t believe me? Check this out:
Needless to say, the kids were completely mesmerised the whole time. Even little Thumper, who watched most of the show from the comfort of his sling!
J and Little E were initially rather confused by the story, which departs from both the traditional ballet version as well as the Disney version. However, once I explained to them that there exists more than one version of the fairytale, they became intrigued by the differences that they observed!
There are no fairies in this version. Instead, Sleeping Beauty has many older sisters, the most courageous of them being Princess Lilac. Princess Lilac vows to protect her sister from the wicked sorcerer who poisoned and kidnapped her during a birthday party, and sets out to look for her. In the process, she finds a prince whom she has to persuade to help her to slay the sorcerer and his minions whilst she seeks the antidote to the poison.
I was really glad that there was a 20 minute interval in the midst of the 2 hour long production. It came just in time for me to put Thumper to sleep, and it was a good opportunity for J and Little E to stretch their legs and visit the loo.
Whilst rocking Thumper to sleep in his sling, I observed many of the younger members of the audience twirling and prancing about in the aisle, imitating the gestures of the ice dancers. A tween-aged girl and boy sitting behind us were discussing the technical aspects of the performance, commenting on how difficult some of the spins and lifts were and comparing them to their personal experience in ice-skating.
My kids are now looking forward to spending some time on the ice themselves, as the ticket stubs for the show can be presented at the Skating Rink at Marina Bay Sands in exchange for free skate rental. Hopefully I’ll be able to bring them there this week!
There’s a plethora of enrichment classes available for children in Singapore and a temptation in Singapore to cram as many activities into a child’s weekly schedule as possible. I think it is very easy to get carried away when choosing enrichment classes because of our innate desire as parents to provide as many opportunities as possible for our children to learn, grow and become well-rounded individuals.
However, I believe that it is important for my children to have some free time because not only can they relax during this time but it also gives them a chance to develop their imagination and creativity. Children who have free time will learn to keep themselves gainfully and meaningfully occupied. They will rarely complain of boredom as they are not dependant on someone or something else to entertain them every second of the day.
This is why the Barn Owl and I are very selective when it comes to deciding what sort of classes and activities that J and Little E attend regularly outside of school. So here’s our decision-making process:
1. The activity has to fulfil more than one possible function
At the moment, the kind of enrichment classes that are available to J and Little E fall under the following disciplines:
We like to choose activities that tend to fall into more than one of the above categories.
As soon as both J and Little E have been consistently able to follow instructions, we have taken them for swimming lessons. This is because we consider swimming and water safety as an important life skill, especially in Singapore where there are open swimming pools, reservoirs, fountains and canals everywhere. It is also a sporty activity from which they can get plenty of exercise and there is opportunity for them to swim competitively if they have the inclination.
2. Enrichment classes should help develop character weaknesses or encourage personal strengths and interests.
When I was in primary school, I tended to skulk about in corners and mumble when spoken to. My parents wanted me to be more certain of myself, so I was packed off to speech and drama lessons for a few years. This helped me to develop stage presence which is a very handy thing to have, not just for giving presentations or managing the occasional job interview, but on a daily basis. It was especially useful when I was still active in the field of medicine where one has to communicate well and command respect and attention from patients and families.
We want J and Little E to be confident individuals who carry themselves well and are not afraid to express themselves in public. However, we also want them to be self-controlled and disciplined. With this in mind, we allowed J to learn martial arts and enrolled Little E in ballet lessons as both of them have expressed an interest in these specific fields.
For J, learning wushu is less about self-defence and more about wushu as a performing art or competitive sport. Additionally, he gets a chance to practice his mandarin with other children during the class, and stimulate his interest in Chinese culture. He is a very active little boy so wushu is a great physical outlet that enhances his natural hand-eye coordination skills, and helps him to build confidence whilst developing much-needed self-discipline and emotional control. This is pretty much same for Little E, who is really enjoying her ballet classes. Dance is both a performing art and a sport, a gateway to other forms of dance and self-expression. We have been told that ballet gives a good foundation in self-discipline, musicality and personal poise!
3. The lessons do not repeat what is taught as part of the school curriculum.
Now, there are plenty of programmes out there intent on hothousing young minds and pushing their academic standards beyond that of the regular school curriculum. The Barn Owl and I do not see the point of sending our children for these programmes for the following reasons:
4. The lessons cannot be taught by ourselves at home.
We would only consider sending our children for academic-related classes if they were struggling to keep up with the school curriculum and need extra help which neither the Barn Owl nor myself can provide.
Both J and Little E attend after-school mandarin classes regularly as our ability to encourage them in this area is extremely limited . However, we tried our best to find a mandarin class that encourages and maintains their interest in learning and using mandarin, without too much emphasis on scholastic achievement. In the end, it is more important to us that they develop a love and appreciation of the language than achieve top marks in class.
There are other classes in the realm of aesthetics and sports, such as art and craft or badminton, which the Barn Owl and I can teach them as part of our family recreational time, so we do not feel the need to send them for formal lessons on a regular basis. However, if our kids happen to show an aptitude in one of these areas that is beyond our ability to nurture, then I suppose we would consider hiring a coach or a tutor who is formally trained to guide and mentor such budding genius!
5. The activities do not infringe on family time.
Family time is precious and we guard it very jealously. Evenings and weekends when the Barn Owl is likely to be home from work and we are together as a family are very strictly out-of-bounds so the children are not allowed to attend classes during these times.
The only exception we have made to this rule is for swimming lessons, which are on Sunday afternoons. All of us will head to the swimming pool together for an afternoon of splashing and playing before and after the actual lesson, so the lesson itself doesn’t affect our family time in the slightest.
6. The ultimate goal of the activity is to instil lifelong hobby or interest.
I know that there are many parents in Singapore who have already sent their preschoolers for coaching in sports and activities like football, badminton and chess, in the hope that they will eventually be selected to join school teams and gain entry into elite schools! This is NOT our goal for J and Little E.
We like to choose activities that will have longevity, and it is even better if the hobby can not only be enjoyed on an individual basis but also as part of a group or team.
J is currently learning the violin, which is an instrument that can be played solo as well as as part of an ensemble. Violin is also a small portable instrument that he can take anywhere in the world with him. Although learning an instrument is difficult (and occasionally stressful), we hope he will grow to love it and see the violin as an extension of himself and a vehicle for creative expression.
We have also decided not to send our kids for classes in sports that are only team-based (such as football) or require more than one person in order to play (such as badminton or tennis). Although it’s good for children to learn teamwork and good sportsmanship, we do not think it is necessary for them to receive formal coaching in a team sport – we will probably encourage them to join their school clubs or recreation clubs instead.
Update: Oh, and I nearly forgot! Here’s one more additional piece of advice:
Know when to stop.
For some enrichment classes, there may come a point where it is clear that your child is no longer making any progress. This may be for any of the following reasons:
1. The limiting factor for advancement in the class is dependant on the developmental stage of the child.
When J was 6 months old, we started baby swim lessons, which he really enjoyed. However, after a year, we realised that for a whole term, he did not make any progress because he was limited by his ability to follow verbal instructions. So we decided to cease swim lessons and restart them when he was older.
2. The class no longer appears to achieve its purpose/has completely achieved its purpose.
We used to send J for mandarin speech and drama lessons, in the hope that it would encourage him to be more confident in speaking mandarin. At first, we saw a dramatic improvement in his willingness to speak mandarin and engage with his Chinese teacher in school, and at the end of year class performance, we were proud to see J happily singing chinese songs and reciting chinese poetry together with his classmates.
However, at the end of his second year in the class, we observed that at the end of year class performance, even though the overall standard of the performance was higher than that of the previous year, only a small handful of children was given a speaking role, whilst the rest of the class repeated the same four word phrase over and over again. We knew then that the class has exhausted its ability to nurture J further, so we decided to enrol him in a different Chinese school.
3. The class makes the child miserable.
I used to enjoy ballet lessons as a child, until my ballet teacher told me that my legs were ‘too crooked’. This comment was not meant to encourage me to improve my posture or leg position, but was a criticism of my actual bone structure, which is something that I knew I could not change. The criticism from my beloved teacher hurt me so badly that I began to drag my feet to class. Fortunately, my parents were perceptive enough to understand that my reluctance to attend ballet lessons did not stem from laziness or lack of tenacity. They stopped the lessons and did not force me to continue learning dance, even under a different teacher as they recognised the negative impact that the classes were having on my psyche.
There is no point in continuing a class that has an overall negative effect on a child. Even though a child may appear to excel in that discipline, if he or she despises the subject and derives no joy from it, not even the satisfaction of achievement, then being forced to continue will bring no long-lasting benefit. It is pretty clear when a child is only doing something to please his or her parents and for no other reason.
 Barn Owl is British and his mandarin vocabulary is one (he can say “pain” in mandarin), and I only speak Windmill Chinese.